Emotions Are Just Data with Dante DiBattista
Emotions are just data, they're not directives. When someone is upset with you, they have every right to feel that way because of the data they are perceiving. By taking full responsibility for the data you are showing the world, you can evolve into greater and greater versions of yourself.
In today’s episode, Dante DiBattista, bestselling author, leadership coach, and inspirational speaker, talks about how this mindset helps us in a leadership position with others. Dante teaches us how to analyze the data from our emotions to increase happiness, success, and well-being.
Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:
How different people weigh different data points
Emotions as data, not directives
The power of intention
The Stanford Prison Experiment
Overcoming fear for effective leadership
[05:37] The Fear of Failure
The fear of failure can hold us back from pursuing our goals. Being branded a failure earlier in life gives you the freedom to never fear it again. It's important to remember that failure is a natural part of the learning process, and we can't let it stop us from trying. By embracing the possibility of failure, we give ourselves the opportunity to grow and succeed in ways we never thought possible.
[07:25] How Different People Weigh Different Data Points
At times, it can be upsetting when people doubt us. However, it's essential to reflect on whether we're truly upset with them or ourselves for providing enough evidence for their doubts. We can't control their thoughts, but we can influence them by demonstrating our behavior, how we treat others, and approach life. If we break trust with those who depend on us due to our refusal to take responsibility for our behavior, they're not wrong as we've given them enough data. Ultimately, we need to accept responsibility for our actions.
[09:00] Emotions are Data, Not Directives
Your behavior is a reflection of the data available, not necessarily who you are at your core. However, you still hold responsibility and ownership over the data you share with others through your actions. If someone gave you a spreadsheet with numbers on it. Would you get offended if the numbers were there? The answer is probably no.
[22:54] Overcoming Fear for Effective Leadership
As a leader, it's crucial to recognize the significance of your position. The fear of being perceived as imperfect and the ego-driven desire to maintain a certain image can prevent leaders from making the right decisions. This behavior can have dire consequences as it could discourage people from speaking up when they need to, potentially leading to disastrous outcomes. It's essential to put the needs of the team or organization above personal pride and to create an environment that allows for open communication and collaboration towards achieving common goals.
Notable quotes:
[08:19] Emotions are data, not directives…. If someone gave you a spreadsheet with numbers on it, would you get offended if the numbers were there? The answer is probably no. [08:58]
[12:37] It’s completely okay if someone's upset with you. They have a right to be upset with you. Don't take it personally. [12:44]
Resources Mentioned:
The Lucifer Effect by Dr. Philip Zimbardo
The Anatomy of Malice by Joel Dimsdale, J. Paul Guimont, et al.
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About the Guest
Dante DiBattista is an experienced community servant, leadership coach, and speaker who challenges traditional ideas of authority and is an advocate for the future of work. He coaches leaders on using emotional intelligence and psychology research to improve company performance while prioritizing employee well-being.
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