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April 4, 2022

E01: Grow Your Confidence

E01: Grow Your Confidence

Do you know what self-confidence is? It’s a feeling that you can succeed at what you are doing. The opposite is having low self-esteem or low self-confidence: feeling like you can't do what you want to do. But ultimately, self-confidence isn't about what the world shows you; it's about what you believe.

In this episode, Matt O'Neill will share his life story — how his family faced discrimination, the challenges he faced as a child, and how he overcame them. He'll also share three critical pieces for building your self-confidence.

Here are some power takeaways from today’s conversation:

  • Hurting yourself hurts other people
  • Belief is all that self-confidence is
  • Identify low confidence beliefs and write the truth beside them
  • Some low confidence beliefs can be helpful, but you can't keep them forever
  • Tell yourself that you can
  • When you fully believe something, the world will feel it too
  • Do not let yourself down

Episode Highlights:

[01:03] Generations of Low Self-Confidence

Matt and his family lived difficult lives for generations. Matt's grandparents fled Ireland due to the potato famine and were treated like lesser people when they arrived in the US.

These experiences created generational pain. The thing is, only people who are in pain hurt others. Matt’s father constantly told him that he was unworthy of good things. Unfortunately, as a child, Matt believed it.

[11:35] What Is Self-Confidence?

Belief is all that self-confidence is. Self-confidence can give you momentum, but everything will slide backward if you think things are going wrong. It all comes down to what you believe — if you think you’re going to succeed, you will.

[16:54] Manifest Powerful Beliefs, But Know When to Let Go

Matt’s grandfather believed that their family was full of determined fighters. It was a powerful belief that kept him alive on the streets of New York.

Matt inherited this energy and used it to fight for everything, whether success or survival. It helped him become successful today, however, being a fighter isn't a happy place. He eventually changed that belief to "success flows easily to me." It was a better mindset than thinking he needed to fight. When your subconsciousness knows what self-confidence is, the world will begin to validate your beliefs.

[23:34] Telling Yourself You Can

A critical element to building self-confidence is believing you can do something. Someone else might tell you that they believe in you — a real confidence booster. However, you don't have to wait for someone else to believe in you or tell you that you can do it — you can tell yourself. Write down in a journal every day until your subconscious fully believes you.

[24:40] Keep Your Promises to Yourself

How you act in one thing is how you do everything. It's critical never to let yourself down; you're the only person you can count on. Even when it's hard, you have to drag yourself out of bed.

[28:09] Doing Lots of Work and Aiming for Big Goals

Doing a lot of work in a short amount of time always increases your self-confidence and self-belief. When you put in the work, you believe the results are coming. That is self-confidence — the belief in yourself and your success.

Links to Resources:

Lou Holtz